I don’t want a ‘Hey’ man.

So a year after having a baby I went back on Tinder. Thought it might be the right time to try dating again after a good break. Only got a few matches that were not obvious fake profiles or totally inappropriate, and a year ago met up with a chap who seemed okay. By ‘okay’ I mean that he sent normal messages and sounded like a pretty good match for me. So we met – and it went quite well. I wasn’t definitely sure I wanted to meet up again, but thought it was worth trying a second date. Unfortunately I got Covid, but we stayed in touch by messages. After a few weeks I was getting regular ‘hey’ messages, to which I replied in sentences asking how he was, if he had enjoyed recent holidays, wanted to meet up again and so on. Never got a full sentence response. I thought that’s okay he is obviously not interested, and as I wasn’t sure myself anyway, was happy and ready to move on. However, since last Summer I now get ‘Hey xx’, ‘Hey’ or ‘xx’ every couple of weeks. At first I did respond sometimes, but would not get anything back – until the next Hey!

So, I am wondering – is this normal and what is the polite / best response? I have stopped replying and have just ignore the messages now, but have not blocked as there has been no suggestion of anything sinister! I have posted previously about how when you get a match on a dating app, the first message is often just ‘Hey’ or variations on a theme, but this continued and regular ‘heying’ is not something I have experienced before.

I have recently gone back on Tinder again to check in after a few months of not being at all bothered. Nothing doing to be honest, and I have realised I don’t think I have the energy for any more ‘Hey’ men right now. I also need to update my profile and photos, and am not sure it is worth my time at present.

In other news, met up with the non-Italian in London last year when he was visiting from Amsterdam, was nice to see him but not heard anything since so assuming that is over. Similarly with the Silver Fox, we are in contact occasionally, but neither of us suggests meeting up any time soon, so that has fizzled out too. Luckily the builder (who turned out to be a policeman) is still keen – but he is rarely around as has moved, so I don’t see him as much as we would like.

So, that’s where I am – the ‘Heys and Lows’ of being a middle aged single parent I guess!!

I did have an interesting meeting with a clairvoyant recently who told me that love was around the corner, I laughed, but she seemed very serious! So watch this space, but ‘hey’ – don’t go out and buy a hat on my account 🙂

Okay, it’s time to get back in the saddle

Yes, it’s finally time to think about dating again, maybe. The baby has recently turned one and I am back in work and so it feels like the right time to cast my eye around again. The thing is – I think I may be even more nervous about dating now than I was when I started this blog. maybe because I am older, maybe because I have not got back to fitness after pregnancy, maybe because I can’t really be bothered – I don’t know, but I am finding the prospect a bit terrifying!

I’ve made a tentative start by making my tinder profile visible again, and removing the photos which no longer look like me – the ones where I am slimmer, younger and tanned! Got to manage expectations! I have also updated my status to say that I am a single parent and I’ll be interested to see if that has any effect on the matches and messages I get. I never got loads of messages before, and a large majority of the ones I did get were either just ‘hey’ or ‘do you have snap or kik’?

I am still in touch with Builder, Silver Fox and Italian, but you wouldn’t refer to any of them are relationships. The builder I see quite regularly, he lives and works near me so is often passing, so we meet up occasionally when I am not looking after the baby or working. I can’t remember when I last saw the Silver Fox – am guessing it was probably pre-covid, but we are still friends and in regular contact, so expect to see him again soon. The one I am please to still be in touch with after all these years is the Italian. I saw him when he was on a flying visit to the UK in February and it was great to see him again. Hopefully he is going to be back in January and we’ll be able to meet up then. I guess seeing him once a year is better than nothing!

So, watch this space to see if I manage to get any matches and go on any dates, and let me know if you’ve any advice for dating as a single parent.

Single Summer is now Single Parent!

I’ve been a bit quiet on the blogging front because I have been busy getting and being pregnant, then having and looking after a baby. It’s been a wild ride so far. Wonderful and exhausting. This is the first time I have posted since last June, when I was 4 months pregnant and wrote about my disappointment that ‘The Italian’ was moving to Amsterdam.

Well, I am very pleased to write that he is returning for a flying visit at the end of the month – woo hoo! I don’t think he knows that I was pregnant let alone that I have had a baby – so that will be interesting. I should clarify that the baby has nothing to do with him, ‘The Builder’, ‘The Silver Fox’ or anyone else I know, as this was a long desired and tried for IVF baby. A side project that I have been working on for over 5 years as I had given up on finding someone to be a parent with – which if you have followed my very limited dating exploits you will understand.

So, when I was pregnant I continued to see ‘The Builder’, visited ‘The Silver Fox’ and finally met up with ‘The Ecologist’.

Since having the baby I have seen ‘The Builder’ twice. I can’t say that I am in any hurry to start dating again – and it would of course bring the added complication of needing to get a baby sitter and so on. The chances of meeting someone in sports clubs, work environments and generally being out and about will be improved if the vaccinations allow us to be out dating again. But I won’t be looking for or rushing in to anything, as the main thing I have learnt in the last few months is that having a small person is very hard work. I found the IVF was overwhelming at times and would take over your life; appointments, injecting, procedures, waiting, hope, disappointment – and now having a little one has taken over in a wonderful but equally full on way.

I also could not pretend I am looking or feeling my best. Am very happy, but months of no sleep and poor eating habits with limited exercise have taken their toll – not to mention actually giving birth – which wasn’t too bad at all – but is still quite ‘a thing’.

For now, happy to be just me and the baby, and if ‘The Builder’ wants to drop in – he’s welcome. And I am really excited to see ‘The Italian’ again – if that works out. I could not believe it when I got a text from him out of the blue – I honestly never thought that I would see his handsome face again!

So, lots to be happy and excited about, I’m enjoying 2022 so far!

When your favourite moves to Amsterdam – Tot Zeins or Vaarwel?

It has been a long while since I posted, but as with so many of you – my attempts at dating have been curtailed by the pandemic. However, I’ve got a few updates and some news which may also partly explain why I have dropped the dating ball a bit in the last few years.

Okay, so yes – the non-Italian has moved to Amsterdam. We didn’t see each other at all in 2020 as I was not able to travel to London, we stayed in touch and I planned to see him as soon as lockdown and travel restrictions were lifted in 2021. In the end, I went to London in the 4th week of May – and sadly he left in the 3rd week – but I was not able to get there any earlier. He was first ever Tinder match and date – from way back in the day. Must be getting on for 8 years that we were seeing each other. Long standing readers will know that I spent the first 4 odd years thinking that he was Italian, and then discovered that he was – of course – Portuguese. I saw him regularly whilst I was in London, but of course less frequently when I moved away. But – I was still a train journey away – not a plane trip! I was sad not to see him to say goodbye, but all good things to come to an end, and I look back on my time with him pretty fondly. He is definitely the best looking person I have ever dated, so 10 out of 10 to him on that score. Now of course I need to ‘replace’ him and I can tell you that the talent coming up on my Tinder feed so far this year is sadly lacking. None of them can hold a candle to him for looks, that’s for sure – but hey – when did I get so shallow (or picky for that matter!).

So, who is left on the scene. The Silver Fox is still there in the background in London. Also planning to move away soon – heading off traveling next year. I did manage to catch up with him for an ice cream whilst I was in London which was nice. We shared news, and quite a lot had happened in the year plus since we had last seen each other, so it was a brief but convivial time and it was nice to catch up.

Closer to home then, we have two candidates – but they’re pretty flaky to be honest. ‘The builder’ is still around – that’s got to be 3 or 4 years now, but remains pretty unreliable. He’s also been really ‘clingy’ recently – always wants to know if I have seen anybody else, sends loads of messages and is frustrated when I don’t reply, and, wants to to tell him that I love him? What?! Help. Is it me or is this odd? Just to be clear he wants us to be a secret and does not actually want to be a couple, so what the heck is that about? Then there is ‘the tree surgeon’. He now lives a relatively short car or train journey from me, and I have been down to his twice to meet him, and as yet he has not made it up here which I think speaks volumes. We both work full time, he has house mates, and I am in the gym 3 nights a week – but if we wanted to I am sure we could make the effort to see each other. So I’m not holding out much hope there. In fact I have not heard from him for a fortnight or so, so that might have fizzled out anyway.

And so I am back on Tinder, but I wasn’t joking when I said there were not rich pickings popping up. So I might need to think of a new strategy for meeting someone, but then of course comes the rub – I don’t think I want to and I certainly don’t think I can be bothered right now.

Things are a bit more complicated as after 6 years of IVF I am pregnant. 20 weeks at the moment and all is going okay so far. It’s taken a lot of time and energy and has partly been the reason for my limited efforts to meet anyone. Once I had given up on meeting someone and having a family, I turned to science for help and in the last 5 years have been in the laboratories and operation rooms more than I have been in coffee shops or pubs on dates!

Where does that leave my dating? I’m not sure. I did tell ‘the builder’ that I was pregnant – and was obviously quick to reassure him that it wasn’t his! The Silver Fox knows and is really pleased for me as he knew I had been trying for a long time. But the thought of going for a date and rocking up with a bump or infant fills me with even more dread that I’d normally have. In reality I think for now the focus will be on taking care of the baby, and I am sure that I’ll be way too tired as a single parent to even worry about dating. Then maybe I might meet someone suitable when I’m not looking – you never know! And if not, flights to Amsterdam are currently about £120 return – so – you know – there’s always that.

Also, as a final piece of sage advice (as if!), try not to start a new full time job with really bad morning sickness. And if you do find yourself in that position, don’t then decide to carry on with house renovations and take on a part time educational training course at the same time! I am sort of hoping that I can do all the course work when I finish work and go on maternity – but now all my thoughts are misgiven. Watch this space to see if I manage to complete the course, and send positive vibes this way please!

Dating in plague time

I’m pretty sure that I am not alone in having completely given up on dating during this global pandemic? I’m sure than thousands of people are feeling as ‘meh’ about it as me.

I don’t really like corresponding by email, text, snap chat, messenger with people I do not know, so I have found it hard to be bothered to engage with anyone for the last few months. I have even gone so far as to make my profile on Tinder not visible for now until we can meet up with people again.

So this post will, like the last couple be simply a very brief update on my non-existent dating life.

A few weeks ago we had heavy snow here, and I sent a snap chat photo of myself in the park in the snow to a guy I had been chatting to on and off for a year. He is based in Belgium, so absolutely no chance of us meting any time soon if at all, and I was not being reeled in by his attempts to get me to send nudes. So I sent him a head and shoulders photo, no make-up selfie after being freeze dried by the wind and snow and guess what – never heard from him again! It’s been 3 weeks now, so I’m guessing he’s not into me, at all!!

The guy I had seen a few times before lockdown ‘The Lawyer’ had been in touch saying he was with someone now, but could we meet up anyway. I said no as politely as I could and then eventually blocked him when we would not drop it. So good luck to his new partner – what a bounder.

I have in the last 12 months managed to meet up with one new guy. He was living miles away, but has moved down to the city. So when restrictions were lifted briefly, we met up twice. He seems like a decent guy (let’s refer to him as ‘The Tall One’), but I can’t imagine it will go any where. We are back in lockdown, so will see if he gets in touch once we can meet again. I’m pretty ambivalent about it and have a new job to start soon, so not looking for any new distractions in the short term anyway.

‘The builder’ still message quite often, which is nice, but we also are not able to meet, so that’s all on hold too, and I still think he has a girlfriend anyway, so as with ‘The Lawyer’ I keep my distance.

And so that’s it. Still in touch with ‘The Italian’ and ‘The Silver Fox’ but they’re both on ice indefinitely. It’s actually been so long since I saw either of them – well over a year, possible 18 to 24 months. They still both send the occasional odd message to check I’m okay.

And I am okay, but certainly looking forward to Spring / Summer and hopefully a time when we can safely meet and make friends again.

One day, we shall date again

It seems a lifetime ago that I last went on a date.

I don’t know about you – but I did not actually enjoy them – and started writing this blog partly as a way to make them more manageable – my logic was that even if the date was terrible – I would have something to blog about so it wouldn’t be a complete waste of time. Now I’d relish going on a date. Being able to meet up with someone, wearing ‘proper’ clothes, putting make-up on and being able to hold conversations sat in front of people, seeing their reactions in real time and if it went well, maybe even touching hands across the table and other such romantic gestures.

In reality, I have been on no dates in lockdown, or in between when it was eased, as it still seemed wise to me to maintain distance from people. I did try to meet up with one guy – but that was a wild goose chase – more of that below. So with the qualifying warning that I am yet again unable to update you on any dates – and so feeling rather a fraud for having a dating blog – here are some of the highlights of my last few months.

I am now an ‘arbitrary swiper’ on Tinder. I’m not on multiple sites at the moment as I don’t have the energy for it, but I have kept my Tinder account – but I often ‘go invisible’ on it for long periods. At the moment I am visible and am collecting some more matches who I will never message or hear from! Or – and this happens often, get the first message quite quickly, exchange messages and then find that they completely lose interest when you don’t want to exchange numbers or share nudes! I spend a lot of my time on Tinder trying to seperate the wheat from the chaff, as yet not enough grain to make any flour!

I have recently stopped responding to ‘The Pharmacist’ – I had misgivings about him and found him a bit creepy, so he has been kicked in to touch.

I had been exchanging messages with an Italian throughout Spring, but I gett he impression he was all mouth and no trousers, as when we actually were able to meet, he kept making excuses, and so he’s dropped off the potential date list too.

The one chap that I did try to meet was ‘the tree surgeon’ who I had been talking to since the very start of our first lockdown back in the Spring. We chat most weeks, and in the Summer when restrictions eased I decided to drive up to meet him, It was a beautiful summers day and I knew it would be a lovely drive, which was just as well as all I got out of that day was seeing some nice scenery, singing along to a few bangers on the radio and having a nice walk in the country. We had arranged to meet in a local beauty spot in the countryside to go for a walk. However, even though I had the pin on ‘maps’ for the location, I was not able to find it, and having no phone signal I was unable to call him to let him know. I spent an hour walking round trying to find him, then gave up and started to drive home. Stopped for a toilet break and had my phone had signal again and there were messages from him ‘well if you’d changed your mind, you could have let me know etc’. Anyway, I explained to him what had happened, but was heading back home by this point, so we left it tentatively that we’d try to meet somewhere less off the beaten track next time. Of course we are now back in lockdown and so I am not sure when that will happen. However, I suppose that he remains my best chance of a date – so I’ll keep up the chats and hope for the best!

Other than that it really has been very quiet, I did see ‘the builder’ once in the summer, and one of the actual real life builders that are working on my money pit of a house has been friendly flirting, which has been a welcome distraction from job hunting.

I had planned / hoped to get up to London before Christmas to catch up with friends and see the ‘Non-Italian’ and maybe the ‘SilverFox’, but this is now looking very unlikely. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t disappointed or that I was not finding this hard, but there we are – we are all weathering this storm. Single people are not the only ones finding it hard, and I know people are enduring much more than me being slightly inconvenienced with no dates and nothing to blog about!

Finally, I have been considering new careers / side hustles. Have any of you for an OnlyFans account? I am considering setting one up with fitness / food / running / workout tips for ‘people like me’ – overweight, aged people with limited gym equipment who want to forge new healthy habits over the next 12 months. If any of you are willing to share any advice or tips – that’d be great.

Who is ready to come out of lockdown and hit the dating scene again then?

So it’s been an interesting and challenging few months for everyone, and not really a good time to be looking for a partner or new friends.

Where I am we went into lockdown towards the end of March and so that put the brakes on any dating plans that I may have had. No more was I able to see the builder or the lawyer, and I certainly could not consider seeing anyone who lives outside of my local area for many months. Now I am in a bubble, but things are relaxing as we open back up. That’s not to say that I don’t expect us to go back in to lockdown again – I would not be at all surprised – and I suppose that gives a sort of urgency to meet up with people whilst you can, but with the responsibility to keep your loved ones safe.

Anyway, here is an update of my non-dating for the last few months. I had been swiping on Tinder a fair bit – mainly out of boredom, and chatted to a few matches. I exchanged numbers with a few. I think I mentioned the pharmacist in my last post and he has kept in touch, wants to talk regularly, but he has been cagey about sending any photos – I have one quite dark photo where he is wearing shades, and I already had misgivings as I wasn’t sure if I found him a bit creepy, so I reply to messages, but am not pushing for a date to meet up at the moment. I expect he will be in touch again this week and I will have to decide whether to meet him or not. At the start of lockdown I started chatting to a guy and then snap chatting and he seemed really great, but then it came up in conversation that he was based in Brussels – hilarious – I could not even get out of my town let alone see someone elsewhere in Europe – so that fizzled out as I would much rather meet up with people in real life than have an online friendship.

I have been exchanging messages with an Italian (yes, an actual Italian – I checked!) who lives in a nearby town – we were supposed to finally meet this week, but it didn’t happen. I think he seems nice, and I would like to meet with him, but am not sure I will make a huge effort if I don’t hear from him soon. There is one other guy (the tree surgeon) I have been talking to since lockdown began, and he seems really nice and we have done a few video chats – but unfortunately he lives an hour and a half drive away, which will restrict our chances to meet up and date – especially if I go back to work soon (fingers crossed).

So having had a few new Tinder matches to talk to, I lost interest in swiping for a few weeks. Then when an easing of lockdown seemed likely I did get a few new matches and have been talking to a new guy who lives not too far away and is a plumber, but that has gone a bit quiet as I then went on holiday last week, but will get back in touch with him soon as he seemed a decent guy and could be worth meeting up with. Also – let’s be honest – you can’t know too many plumbers can you? Always useful to have around 🙂

So that’s a whirlwind update of what has felt like a quite busy time for dating – even though I have not actually been able to see anyone! ‘On the go’ at the moment then are the lawyer (from before lockdown), the builder (been going on for years that), the actual Italian, and the plumber who has potential. Then there are a few guys who seem nice and I would like to meet – but live a bit too far away – the tree surgeon and the accountant (a new match this week).

As an end note, the Silverfox is back in touch and wants to meet up – I have not seen him (or heard much from him) for a long time – probably over a year – so  I’m not in a hurry to reignite any flames there. But, and this is my really happy news, The non-Italian is back in touch 🙂 In my last post I wrote that he had deleted me as a friend on facebook, but over a text conversation said he did want to see me again but could not be in touch at that time. So I said I would not contact him, and wait to hear from him if and when he wanted to see me again. I don’t know what was going on there, but will find out when I see him. I was a bit upset to think that I would not see him again after 8 years of friendship, so was really pleased to hear from him last week because, although I never thought that I would – I have in fact really missed him / his messages.

So that’s what is going on here, for those of you who are thinking about starting dating again – how will you approach it, do socially distanced first dates work, do you think it is too risky to see new people at the moment? Comment below if you’ve got any advice and thanks for taking the time to read this post 🙂

 

Virtual dating – me? – as if!

I am led to believe that plenty of people are making the effort with ‘virtual dating’ whilst Covid-19 has resulted in a lockdown in the UK.

I have spurned this, as I can barely manage to get out of bed and dressed properly before midday – let alone do hair, make-up and lighting and speak to someone I don’t really know on a video call 🙂

I hope I am not alone in not embracing this new dating world?

Tinder have done a thing where they put people from all around the world into your feed, which I did not realise, so have ended up being penpals with some super hot mechanic from Belgium, and a very fit professional tennis player from Germany. Which is all great, but is it going anywhere – absolutely not! I mean really, what is the point? If I wanted to learn more about other counties and cultures I would revisit my geography degree!

The global pandemic has helped shine some light for me on some of my ‘love interests’. Some very suddenly went quiet – no more texts or messages – leading me to assume that they’re now stuck at home with their families or partners and are no longer able to communicate with me. So they’re off the Christmas card list.

I had a number of new matches at the start of lockdown and a few have dwindled out as the weeks have passed. A few stay in touch – and the messages mainly consist of ‘hey’, ‘how are you’ and ‘hopefully we can meet up soon’. The builder and the lawyer stay in touch. The Silver Fox texted once to check I was alive, and there are three guys I may meet up with when able to travel again; the ecologist, the Italian (yep – an actual Italian – I checked) and the pharmacist.

The first few weeks were really hard – suddenly not being able to date anyone made me really want to be able to meet someone for coffee or a drink. Very typical reaction to restrictions I am sure. Mainly I am relatively comfortable in lockdown as I am blessed with the company of a charming feline in a terraced  house with great neighbours. I have no garden, but I can get out into the surrounding hills for exercise in beautiful surroundings. I am keeping a list of all the things that have been a positive during this time of worry and uncertainty. I know that some people have been very ill, lost loved ones, not been able to be at death beds or attend funerals, cancelled family gatherings, weddings, honeymoons and holidays, been trapped at home with abusers and other manifold struggles and sorrows. I don’t want to belittle any of that or be flippant, but so far my main hardships have been trivial.

I greatly miss seeing my family and being able to hug them. I very much yearn to be able to attend a Parkrun, the gym and swimming pools. And I also do miss my rather dull ‘dating scene’. And throughout all of this, I have been feeling a bit bereft as the non-Italian seems to have finally ended it after all these years. Although he’s never meant much to me, I am really missing him at this time and would have found some comfort from his messages and virtual presence – I might have even bothered with the hair and make-up for him. But at the start of the crisis I noticed that I was not able to send him messages through facebook messenger and then that he had unfriended me. I texted him and he said he definitely wanted to see me again, but couldn’t be in touch with me at this time and was not in London. He seemed a bit odd, so I’m really not sure what happened. I am guessing he had something pretty big going on, but I didn’t ask for any more details. I suppose that I may hear from him again at some point and find out more, but I would not be surprised if that it it and I never hear from or of him again. Which after all that time leaves me feeling a bit sad – but it was certainly fun whilst it lasted!

So a big hello to everyone else who has seen their dating or love life hit the rails in the last few months because of the virus. Let me know how you’re getting on and if you have had any success with the virtual dating 🙂

Having a few dates before isolation and travel bans kick in

Strange times at the moment.

Many reasons to be anxious and concerned for ourselves and others, and my flippancy here doesn’t mean I am immune to this. It may have a big impact on my family, but I am trying to make light of it at the moment as things are not within my control. As the Coronavirus and COVID19 pandemic continues, I have been at home more than usual as lots of things have been canceled or postponed, so I have started doing some admin tasks to offset the boredom.

One has been to write / update a list of he people I have dated, and even through it is not even that many, my memory is playing with me and I am really struggling to remember who some of these guys are and how and when I met them! If anyone remembers me dating anyone called Jack in about 2014 – please do let me know!

I have done a spreadsheet – those who know me won’t be surprised at this, and I have colour coded it as follows; boyfriends, lovers, one night stands / one daters, blocked and ghosted me. Blocked means that I have blocked them and ghosted means that they have cut me off with no reason, explanation or apology – rude.

I’ll list the ‘blocked’ ones as they’re possibly of some interest.

Graeme who I met in Oxford and lived with me in London for a bit in the ’90s, because he was an addict and a thief – he ran off with our house bank card and my friends camera, untrustworthy – blocked.

Mr Brown from London. Met him at a work do, found out many years later that he had told people in the industry about our date – indiscreet – blocked.

The Fireman’ – I had to look back through my blog posts to see that he was a fireman. But regardless of his career, he was a twonk. I had to cancel a date at short notice because a friend was in great need and he got really angry – ill-tempered and arrogant – locked.

The would be murderer – locked me in his room and whispered ‘I am going to murder you’, possibly an addict, creepy as anything – blocked.

The kinky mature student who wanted me to do very strange things to him and then ghosted me – wierd as you like – blocked.

The really gorgeous Chinese gym bunny, ghosted me after being really super keen – blocked.

I expect there will be more to add to the list!

So aside from doing this list and realised how awful my memory is – I have been back on Tinder briefly for a few weeks looking to meet someone new. I have had a tough few months but it finally felt like it might be a good time to try and meet some new people and get out a bit more.

Since I last wrote and update on here I have not been able to see the non-Italian as he was away for all of February, and is now back in London – but I have not been able to travel up there as yet, and won’t be able to until April now (depending on what happens with COVID19 of course). I have seen the builder a couple of time (yes I know I said I wouldn’t but times are strange and there is comfort in the familiar).

In my last post I think I mentioned that I was messaging a guy and hoped to meet him – that happened and it was good. He seemed pretty normal at first and we had 2 dates before he told me that he was a lawyer and was looking for a ‘dom’. Well I knew what dom meant, I didn’t have to google it – but equally I’d not be able to stop laughing if I tried, just don’t think I’d be cut out for it – so I assume that’ll be the end of that. I haven’t heard from him for a week or so now.

I had a more positive meeting with a gym bunny who works in a mental health care team and he seemed really great and I would like to see him again. I met up with him last week after a horse riding lesson in the morning, and he was super easy to talk to and seemed mature and confident. We talked about lots of things – including this trend for ghosting people and how rude that was and so on. And – yep – I’m sure you’ve guessed it – not heard from him since even through he was very keen to meet again!! So at the moment he is coded as ‘ghosted me’.

I’d probably be pretty annoyed about it if I didn’t have another few irons in the fire; the first is a roofer from Bristol – hoping to meet up soon, and the second is a pharmacist from Bristol who seems very keen – but watch this space as I have my reservations. Won’t explain why here – think it might be a whole post in itself in a week or so.

Finally I matched with a professional tennis player who was super keen, sent loads of messages in insta – including ones of his ridiculous athletic physique (no dick pics thankfully) but then when I asked if he wanted to meet up for coffee said he was in Germany and would probably be stuck there for a while because of the virus! Okay then.

So there we go – but if a mammoth update – big pats on the back for anyone who managed to read all of that drivel! And watch this space for more news about creeps and ghostings being posted here soon.

On a serious I hope that you and your families all stay well and safe x

 

 

 

 

 

Tit for Tat

I’m not mature enough yet to not be childish. So this week I have, for the first time, blocked a date on WhatsApp. Why – because he keeps doing it to me and I’m annoyed about it! The builder got in touch again saying he wanted to meet up. But getting in touch again meant that he had unblocked me. We exchanged messages. He wanted to meet up last week, I said I wasn’t available as I didn’t want him to think I was okay with him doing this blocking nonsense and expecting me to be hanging around waiting to hear from him. Then he got in touch again yesterday, and I was at a loose end, and so agreed to meet. He said that he’d let me know when he had finished work and was on his way. Did he? No he did not. Luckily I had half expected him to be a flake, and so had carried on with my plans anyway, popping into town and visiting a friend. But what annoyed me even more than the no show, was the lack of courtesy – not even sending a message! Then when I checked – guess what? – yep – he’d blocked me again. So I have now blocked him. So next time he decided to try and slide into my life, he will discover that he has been blocked. Hopefully he takes it well, I do think he deserves a taste of his own medicine, and a wake-up call to how rude he has been.

In more positive news, I had a date a few weeks ago. He had not been in touch so I had assumed he was ghosting me, but he got back in touch and is working abroad at the moment. We have a loose plan to meet up again when he is back in March, so we shall see if that actually happens. I’d be happy to see him again, he was good company and easy to talk to. I don’t think there is any long term potential, but I think we’d both be happy to spend time together for now – it’s better to have company than stay at home alone watching TV.

The Silverfox slid back onto the scene too last week. Not sure how I feel about it or what I am going to do about it at the moment. My thoughts at the moment are to meet up for coffee and make it clear that we are just friends.

The non-Italian remains a constant, and it was fun to see him earlier this month and we are planning another date in February which I am sure will be good fun.

And last but not least a Canadian has arrived on the scene (Tinder), but I am not convinced about him, he may be filed under ‘creepy, not meeting, just wants photos’.

Oh and a guy (Tinder) who started messaging this morning and is actually looking for a relationship!  First one ever I think, so I’ll let you know if we meet up and how that goes.